This week I made 45 turns around the sun.
I learnt that life is a circle.
I also learnt that everyone is selfish in nature. We tend to do things that profits us, even if we don’t realise it. It could be the way we were taught as we grew up.
At a stopover in Dubai on a trip back from Nigeria, a fellow passenger chided a Nigerian for running from one gate to another while the rest of us walked. This elderly gentlemen didnt realise that the Nigerian was just playing an internal script in him that was ingrained since he was a child – run for those things that are important to you. If this Nigerian was courteous and allowed everyone to go before him, he’d end up with no food when it came to his turn. Food is scarce in his country and he would return home empty handed to his family. So run he did. Hence, never judge another human being on first impressions.
I also learnt that bullying happens at work place. I work for a Hong Kong expatriate who is a bully at work. He preys on the weak and nice. He manipulates every situation for his own benefit. He twists words. He even shouts at colleagues to intimidate them. The only way to overcome this is to STAND UP to a bully. At first, he will be disgusted. He will threaten you, intimidate you further so that you will succumb to him. If all else fails, he will try and exclude you from all future work. That, in a nutshell, is what I am going through now. Bullying never stops until you put a stop to it.
I also learnt that hard work pays off. I am not smart. But I out-work my colleagues. My fault is that I do not know how to find a balance between work and life. I tend to neglect my wife. As I am writing this, she is sitting patiently on the couch and waiting for me. I am so sorry my love.
Without proper planning, our life goes in a zigzag manner.
Everyone talks about having goals in mind and we tend to scratch our heads and think of massive goals. Life is not like that for most of us. Most of us don’t know what we want until later in life. Doesn’t make you a failure. But we do need to set yearly goals. Like losing weight. Don’t set a massive amount of weight to lose. Set a reasonable amount and don’t set one type of method, supposing its diet, to achieve this goal. I’ve learnt that the best way to lose weight is a combination of little habits – eating less food, walking a bit, sleeping earlier, having less stress, finding a hobby – all of these little habits helped me to lose weight.
Lastly, just remember that where you are today is the results of your habits for the past year. If you’re not happy with where you are today, make a resolution to change some habits to achieve a goal in the next 12 months.